tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166038.post2051137499212095907..comments2023-09-16T08:43:25.401-04:00Comments on Ima Shalom: Is it supposed to be this hard?Ima Shalomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09061606719970415577noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166038.post-5840566670771702252008-06-17T09:16:00.000-04:002008-06-17T09:16:00.000-04:00I was going to write something similar to your pos...I was going to write something similar to your post this week: my darling sweet, smiley happy child has been a monster for two weeks. It makes me wonder if there's something more going on than the second molar breaking through the skin (ear infection? How do you recognize the signs?) She just wants to nurse all day long, and throws tantrums--turns blue in the face and falls to the ground--when I try to dress her or put her in the stroller or make her sit in her high chair, etc. I don't indulge, but I'm seriously starting to lose it. Really. I count the seconds till the babysitter arrives...And that's not how I want to enjoy my baby.<BR/>I hope it's just the teeth!Marcela Sulakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06232403389788282812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166038.post-85231587470300919962008-06-16T22:57:00.000-04:002008-06-16T22:57:00.000-04:00Allow me to chime in with a more old-fashioned opi...Allow me to chime in with a more old-fashioned opinion. <BR/>No, it is not supposed to be this hard. You are not supposed to "give in" to your child's developmental stage, and it is not his "job" to be defiant right now.<BR/>Please stop reading all those parenting books- they are so often ridiculous and ineffective and conflict with each other. Rather, realize that you and your husband are the adults in your home- you make the rules, you enforce them, and you expect your son to follow them. Be firm and consistent, tempered of course with love and a bit of patience- but not too much patience. Overindulging a child's demands and tantrums will just lead to more demands and tantrums. Children will rise to the expectations that are set for them. Make it clear that you expect your son to behave nicely, and he will learn to. Then you can enjoy his toddlerhood instead of suffering through it. <BR/>And your son will grow up to be a well adjusted kid, instead of a spoiled one.<BR/>Best of luck to you.SuperRaizyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06742653185025562286noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166038.post-64456508841044538092008-06-16T16:28:00.000-04:002008-06-16T16:28:00.000-04:00Sorry I read my comment and found some mistakes. T...Sorry I read my comment and found some mistakes. <BR/>Try again. <BR/>Talk about meltdowns. I know it, I called a family therapist for help once and when she called me back I was in the middle of a meltdown. I wasn't violent, but she heard my tension and was afraid for my son. I loved him but I could not figure out how to understand him. Now he is 13 and I have learned a lot about understanding. One of the best helpers I found was through a parenting website for dyslexic and ADHD children (my other son is dyslexic). Dr Sam Goldstein and Dr Robert Brooks. They have published several articles on the web that you can read freely - www. drrobertbrooks.com/writings/articles.html and www.samgoldstein.com/template.php?page=monthly_articles - I read several and found a new perspective. After reading them I bought two books by them, one that I am reading now and another that I read a while back. It really helped me and is called: Raising Resilient Children: Fostering Strength, Hope and Optimism in Your Children. It honestly changed me. The best thing for me was they seemed to understand me, not blame me. Check them out on the web, see if they can help make it easier. Best of luck!Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07443460833111697991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21166038.post-68895709172358238812008-06-16T16:24:00.000-04:002008-06-16T16:24:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Debbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07443460833111697991noreply@blogger.com